Marriage. Thousands of parameters, hundreds of prospective options, tens of people advising you what to do and what not to do, just one brain to process a sh** load of information.
One part I don't like about Indian marriages is the stress given on the horoscope/stars etc. A girl/guy being rejected without a second look just because they were under a particular planetary position is incomprehensible idea for me. The reverse is also true, just because someones birth sign and stars/planets match your, again you ignore to look at their entire profile. Astrology is a destroyer of possibly like minded individuals being joined in holy matrimony. Totally unfair!
The only thing that I hate more than astrology is judging and being judged (both things I hate) in an arranged marriage. I mean, how much can you learn about someone in a 30 minute discussion, to casually accept/reject them? For all you know, you might be losing a greatest match you may ever find again, or get married to someone totally incompatible. Totally unfair!
All these problems because I did not invest enough time and effort to fall in love, choose my own girl. Then again, you have unknowns there too. Looks can be deceiving, good short term compatibility does not necessarily ensure long term compatibilities. Things change, people change, appearances change, commitment levels change. Totally unfair!
So I still am not certain that getting the right life partner is not a matter of you choosing her or someone else doing it for you. As much as I hate it, I got to play the game. The more I think about it, more marriage sounds like gambling. A game where you don't know your odds, learn the rules as you play. Doesn't necessarily mean that you cant win, just that it is an unfair game with some pleasant surprises, some disappointments and a lot of compromise.
On the flip side, an unfair game seems to have its advantages. So let us see how I fare..
